Dear Grace,
My husband and I have been together for a long time. We love each other, but our sex life recently has taken a downturn. This is made worse by the fact that whenever I walk into the bathroom, I catch him in there masturbating to porn. I can't cope with this much longer. What do I do?
Confused
Dear Confused,
Firstly: Knock. Stop walking in on him in the bathroom. Its the one area people should be guaranteed privacy.
Secondly: There is nothing wrong with him masturbating, nor watching porn. But what you do need to do is actually sit and talk to him about what might be going wrong in the bedroom. Are you meeting his needs? does he feel he isn't meeting yours? Is there a disconnect between you two? Is it simply a dip in a long term relationship? Once you have figured those answers out perhaps you two can find a way to fix whatever the problem is. Communication, and perhaps a brand new set of lingerie is the key here.
Finally, ask him about what porn he is watching, watch it with him, it could be another key as to what's going on. Tastes change over time, and this doesn't exclude in the bedroom. Be prepared for an adventure, saddle up, and enjoy the ride.
Grace